Guest Blog with The Bentley Boys - How to Choose the Perfect First Dance Song

Nov 04 2025

This week the Bentley Boys give some top tips to help couples choose the their music for their first dance....

Fun 1st Dance in the Main Barn at Larchfield Estate Co Down Premier NI Wedding Venue
Friends join couple on the dancefloor in the Heritage Barn at Larchfield Estate Co Down. Photo Credit Frances Meaney

How to Choose the Perfect First Dance Song

Your first dance is one of the most anticipated moments of your wedding day — the song you’ll always associate with “your” moment together.

At Larchfield Estate, one of the most romantic wedding venues in Northern Ireland, we’ve seen countless magical first dances. And as The Bentley Boys, the foremost supplier of wedding music entertainment in Ireland, we’ve helped thousands of couples pick the perfect first dance song for their big day.

If you’re unsure where to start, here’s our expert advice to help you choose a first dance that’s meaningful, memorable, and uniquely ‘you’.

Dance Floor at Larchfield Estate Co Down
Romantic First Dance at Larchfield Estate Photo Credit Honey & The Moon

1. Choose a Song That Means Something to You

Forget tradition — the best first dance songs are personal. Instead of Googling “top 10 first dance songs,” think about:

  • The first gig you went to together

  • A song that played on your first trip away

  • A track you both love belting out in the car

  • Something nostalgic or offbeat that makes you laugh

Choosing a song that tells your story will make your first dance at your Northern Ireland wedding venue even more special.

2. Look Beyond the Melody — Read the Lyrics

Some songs sound romantic… but actually aren’t. Before locking anything in, read the full lyrics.

For instance:

DO: ‘The One’ – Kodaline (a hugely popular Irish choice, heartfelt and uplifting)
BE CAREFUL WITH: ‘I Will Always Love You’ – Whitney Houston (actually a breakup song!)
AVOID: ‘Every Breath You Take’ – The Police (it’s about obsession, not romance)

First Dance in the Dancefloor Room at Larchfield Estate CO Down
At Larchfield Estate couples can choose to dance in the main barn area or in the adjoining side room if they prefer...

3. Consider the Mood and Tempo

Ask yourselves: do you want your first dance to be…

  • Slow and romantic? ‘At Last’ (Etta James), ‘Can’t Help Falling in Love’ (Elvis), ‘Make You Feel My Love’ (Adele).

  • Light and joyful? ‘L-O-V-E’ (Nat King Cole), ‘You’ve Got the Love’ (Florence + The Machine)

  • Modern with a twist? ‘All I Want Is You’ (U2 acoustic), ‘Yellow’ (Coldplay), ‘Shivers’ (Ed Sheeran)

Couples planning weddings in Northern Ireland for 2025–2026 are increasingly choosing upbeat mashups or dance-style arrangements — and our DJs and live bands are fully on board.

4. Decide Between DJ or Live Performance

A live band brings a magical energy that’s hard to match — and when you have such talented musicians on hand, it’s a shame not to use them.

On the other hand, using the DJ gives you the exact track you’ve fallen in love with. Some couples even opt for a live acoustic version of a pop song — for example, an instrumental performance of ‘A Thousand Years’ for a ceremony, then a full band version at the reception.

If you’re celebrating at Larchfield Estate, either option works beautifully in our rustic barn or elegant Orangery setting.

First Dance Wedding in Main Barn in Larchfield Estate
First Dance in the Main Barn at Larchfield Estate Co Down

5. Practise (Just Enough!)

You don’t necessarily need to hire a choreographer. Just:

  • Listen to the track a few times together

  • Decide when to start walking to the floor

  • Choose whether you’ll dance the full track or fade out early

  • Rehearse a few simple moves (a twirl, a dip, a smile — that’s enough!)

Also — if you're wearing a large dress or heels, practise in them. Trust us.

Family on Dancefloor at Wedding Northern Ireland
Some couples love having their family join them for their 1st Dance... Photo Credit Simple Tapestry

Your First Dance, Your Way

Whether your style is elegant and slow, upbeat and cheeky, or somewhere in between — your first dance should reflect you as a couple. Don’t stress about impressing anyone. It’s a moment for you to connect, laugh, hold each other close, and kick off your celebration.

At Larchfield Estate, every couple creates their own unique story — from the ceremony to the first dance under twinkling lights.

Romantic 1st Dance At Larchfield Estate Co Down NI Top Wedding Venue
Romantic 1st Dance in the Heritage Barn at Larchfield Estate Co Down, close to Belfast. Photo Credit Agape Photography

Need Some Inspiration?

The Bentley Boys publish a chart of first dances as chosen by our clients each month.

Some of the trends we’ve noticed:

  • A classic is always a classic!
    ‘Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You’ by Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons was by far the most popular first dance of 2024 and remains a top pick for 2025.

  • It’s hard to beat the Irish!
    First dances from Irish artists are incredibly popular. ‘Take My Hand’ by Picture This is the first dance favourite of 2025, with songs from Westlife, Van Morrison, The Cranberries, Kodaline, and The Frank & Walters featuring strongly.

  • Keep it Country!
    The Country resurgence is real and is set to continue, with songs from Chris Stapleton, Brooks & Dunn, Jordan Davis, Morgan Wallen, Abby Anderson, and Luke Combs making regular appearances in our first dance chart.

Follow us on Instagram at @bentleyboysband for our monthly first dance chart and inspiration for your Northern Ireland wedding playlist.

Groom claps Bride after 1st Dance at Larchfield Estate Co Down
Take a Bow! Post 1st dance Applause at Larchfield Estate - Photo Credit Adam and Grace Photography
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